We are creatures of habit. Humans thrive on routine and knowing what our plans are, especially when we are pregnant or bringing a baby into our world. So what do we do when life or others in our lives throw us a cup of change? We just add honey.
How can we process this change and not allow it to negatively impact our life experiences?
One thing that many people do when unwelcome curve balls happen, is go into a state of denial. Accepting that the change is happening is the best way to work on solutions to either adjust or fix the situation. We can’t just pretend it away!
Recognize that changes can cause stress, even if the changes are good.
It’s totally ok to feel stressed over changes in your health, or your care plans. We just want to monitor our stress levels and make sure our healthcare providers are aware of the stress, so it can be handled, should it all become too much. We don’t want you surviving through pregnancy and a new baby, we want you thriving!
Maintain as much routine as possible
Routine is the best way to alleviate as much stress as possible, so keep your daily life as close to normal as possible. Get up in the morning and have your tea or coffee, go to work and church, have lunch with a friend, keep date nights. Being consistent will help you navigate the changes and make them feel a little smaller and manageable.
Find Support
There are so many amazing support systems in your community if you just ask. If you see changes happening, be proactive and talk to your doctor or midwife about finding a support person to help you through the transition or change. If your changes revolve around your pregnancy or birth, a professional doula, therapist, or nutritionist could help make all this change seem like not such a big deal! Being heard and supported is a pivotal part of any experience feeling either negative or positive.
Take care of your body
Eat foods that are filled with nutrients and rich in fibers. Gut health is so important in when your body is dealing with stress hormones. Stay active, even if it’s just a 5 minute walk twice a day. Getting fresh air and moving our bodies is found to significantly decrease symptoms of depression (Barclay, et al. 2014.) Get at least 8 hours of sleep each night, or sleep when baby is sleeping (seriously, that’s not a joke.)
Give yourself a break
This can mean so many things. Take a break from social media and let your mind rest for a day. Carve out 20 minutes for a nap or to listen to relaxing music in your workday. Go lay at the pool or on the beach and listen to the water and let the breeze blow through your hair. Fill your body with some good oxytocin!